Good evening lovelies,
I hope you’ve all had a lovely Friday doing whatever you’ve been doing. This evening, I wanted to talk a little bit about relationships in the times of lockdown.
For some people, the lockdown has meant spending some time apart. For some people, I know that will have ievitably ended the relationship. For others, it would have been the ultimate endurance test that proves your love for one another. If you’re married like I am, then the added time spent in each other’s company will be enough to make or break your relationship. Today, I want to share some of the ways in which we feel we have changed.
The Early Days
At the start of lockdown, Wolfie and I were anxious to not spend time with our families, and excited to spend so much time together. We envisioned long lay-ins, lots of sex and lots of barbecues, yet realistically, none of those things happened. Once the excitement of spending so much time together wore off (and it did, quite fast), we found that our ‘new normal’ saw some little quirks of it’s own. Here is a look at some of the changes we discovered.
“Good morning, Matt speaking, how can I help you?”. When did he get so darn nice? Matt is nice, don’t get me wrong, but since working with him, I’ve come to appreciate how nice he really is. I’m lucky to be married to this man! In a similar way, he’s come to appreciate how hard I work around the home, and some of the ideas I put into my blog. As I’ve spouted things to him, his latest new phrase has been one of encouragement: “Don’t tell me, write about it for your blog! These ideas are great!”
2. The Small Things
Every morning at 8am, I wake up, grind fresh coffee beans and make my husband his morning coffee. If he’s up before I am, he makes me my morning tea. It’s a small thing, but it’s working as a team that really matters during these trying times.
3. Dinner Dates
At 12:30pm, we stop and eat dinner together. Under normal circumstances, my husband eats lunch on his lunch break and I have mine when I’m hungry, but under lockdown, we’ve been taking lunch breaks together. It’s a nice time to clock off, share the frustrations that we’ve been dealing with in the morning and relax for an hour. Not only, but it reminds us of the days we used to work together in a team. In a sense, we still have that team dynamic, but now we don’t have to hold back on our feelings for each other anymore!
4. Date Nights In
You know that pressure of having to do the best things for date night or seem like you have the most creative and romantic ideas ever? Not in Lockdown. In Lockdown, you are free to do whatever the hell you want to do, in the confines of your own home. Movie marathons? Go for it. Rock fest in your pyjamas? Do that also. We’ve shamelessly reminisced over our 90’s childhood and we’ve eaten pizza and popcorn like slobs, because that’s exactly all we wanted to do on that occasion. Date night is whatever the hell you want it to be, so don’t feel bad if take out and a movie marathon is exactly what you both want to do, now or after the lockdown ends.
5. Frank Conversations
Have you ever had that problem that, by the time your partner has gone to work and come home again you’re kind of pretty much over it, but you need them to get out of your hair so that you can get over it in the first place? You can’t have those problems in lockdown, because you are around each other all of the time. I firmly believe that the only way out is through, and instead of spending time dancing around how best to say something, this lockdown has taught us to cut the awkward silence and restore our connection for lasting peace, using some good ol’ fashioned diplomacy. We’ve had less huffing and puffing. Instead, our issues have forced us to speak up right away.
6. A Taste For New Things
Lasagne isn’t bad and I can make a mean lemon mousse, who knew? While I haven’t been able to get my weekly grocery shops, the lockdown has forced us to make meals and desserts using the ingredients we have available to us. Not only have we learned the art of improvisation, we’ve also found some delicious, time-saving (and healthy!) recipes that we enjoy!
7. Sex, Without Sex
Initially, the newness of more time together saw us having more sex. Unfortunately, like all things, the novelty of having more sex eventually wore off. Instead, it saw us explore other avenues of sexual connection, like oral sex as the main event, and mutual masturbation. Because we were both satisfied, even on the days that we didn’t have sex, we didn’t actually miss having sex at all!
8. Less Than Fifty Shades
As maintaining our normal routines has been hard, so our normal kinky sessions have suffered. Far from the normal fortnightly Friday night sessions that we used to have, we’ve been having lots of fun on a Saturday instead. Is it a session as such? No. Is it just as much fun? Absolutely!
So there we have it, 8 ways that our relationship has changed in lockdown. How has the past weeks been for your love life? Has it been better, worse or about the same? Let me know in the comments!
Be Bold. Be Bright, Be Beautiful,
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